How One Facebook Post Inspired Me To Frame Life With Gratitude
A friend of mine posted something on Facebook the other day about how she is trying to frame life with gratitude. It really struck me and it really stuck with me.
You know how sometimes something just strikes you in that way? In that stick with you kind of way? In that mind blown kind of way? It was one of those moments for me.
It was a simple premise starting with, “I’ve been replacing my “I’m sorry’s with ” thank you’s…”
And she went on, “...like instead of “sorry I’m late” I’ll say ” thanks for waiting for me”, or instead of “sorry for being such a mess” I’ll say “thank you for loving me and caring about me unconditionally” and it’s not only shifted the way I think and feel about myself but also improved my relationships with others who now get to receive my gratitude instead of my negativity.”
Damn, that’s some powerful stuff.
And it got me thinking, thinking about how I could use this mindset shift in my own life.
Just how many times do I apologize on a daily basis? Too many. So, I started paying attention. Last night, I caught myself on at least two occasions apologizing for the house being a mess. Really, does anyone care except me? Probably not. Not to mention, it always make people uncomfortable, especially when the house IS a mess. What are they supposed to say? It’s okay? I don’t mind? It’s not a mess? You should see my place?
Just imagine if I re-framed it, maybe saying something like, “Thanks for coming into our everyday chaos.” It feels a bit less awkward and feels better. And seriously, who doesn’t live in contained(ish) chaos?!?!?
More importantly, reframing it expresses gratitude to the visitor rather than negativity. I like it. No, I love it. There is a mound of research about the power of gratitude, why not invite a little more into our lives?
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying a sincere “I’m sorry” doesn’t have a place in our repertoires, of course it does. As much as I’d like to think I never do anything requiring an apology, I am human. Sadly there are times that I do legitimately owe an apology…but likely not as many as my I’m sorry’s might indicate.
So, I’m starting now, I’m paying attention and making it my mission to turn as many of my “I’m sorry’s” as possible into “Thank you’s.”
And reaping the benefits of finding ways to frame life with gratitude.